1. Alpha Mare, December 3, 2009:

   Well, a person doesn’t commit suicide because of the way someone treated them. They do so because of the things they decide to be true about themselves based on how they interpret someone’s behavior towards them.
   For example, a group of your friends alienates you for some “unexplainable reason”. You interpret the meaning of their behavior to be that they don’t care about you and/or hate you. You come to the irrational conclusion that you are an inadequate/inferior person who is unlovable and you feel hopeless that anyone will ever care about or love you. That is what leads you to commit suicide- your own beliefs about yourself.
   Think about it- what if the same thing happened yet you interpreted your friends’ behavior to mean that perhaps they’re just immature, or perhaps you’ve unknowingly offended them b/c you are human? And you think to yourself “Just b/c they are upset doesn’t mean they hate me, and this does not mean I’m unlovable. Even if they don’t like me there are plenty of people who do/will because I am a worthwhile person.” If you believed this to be true about yourself you would not want to kill yourself.
   It would be your own beliefs about yourself that made you commit suicide, not your “friends” treatment of you.

2. yoshiwon, December 3, 2009:

   I would know that it was not because of anything I did, but because the person needed help for a chemically imbalanced brain. I treat people the way I would like to be treated and I hold people accountable for their own actions.

3. Crazy Cat Lady, December 3, 2009:

   fact: people don’t commit suicide for any other reasons outside of themselves….suicide is one of the most selfish things a human being can do. It has practically nothing whatsoever to do with anything besides what is happening in her/his own head.
   i’ve seen people commit suicide….and in not ONE of those cases have i see somebody feel like they were responsible…because all reason and logic supports otherwise. Suicidal depression is a mental illness. Do you blame yourself if your friend winds up suffering from bipolarity? of course not.

4. rick s, December 3, 2009:

   yes, i would feel guilty but i would never take full responsability for what happened. clearly, this person has major problems before hand to have given up in life in such a way. i mean, a lot of people get alienated during some point of their lives. its natural and part of life… but for them to have killed themself based on that reason is very weak and doesnt really evoke any empathy from my part. people that get alienated in groups should learn to move on and to gain more confidence in themselvs. they shud stop relying on other people for their happiness. people are only going to treat u the way u treat urself. anyway, i study psychology and i know that people make up whatever reasons they can not to suffer from experiencing a bad image of themselves. if someone is likely to kill themselves based on that, these people will likely try to justify it with other reasons. for instance, they will blame the persons character or family because they dont want to take responsibility for what has happened.
   if ure the person that is considering to kill themselves (this is just an assumption) i advize u to be strong and to not give up in life. it might seem bad now but time flies and ur situation will change. soon it will become sso insignificant to u and just a decent memory. so hold on

5. tefi, December 3, 2009:

   I’d feel sad for their family. For the friend, I’d think how pathetic. Suicide is a cowards way out. There is nothing and no one in this life that is sooooo bad that you need to kill yourself.
   I am sorry for your if this did happen did your friend did this to themself with the way they thought of themself. Your group of freinds may not helped but they did not cause your friend to kill themself.
   Each day is a new gift. A chance to start anew. It is up to us to make that start, otherwise we become complacent and deteriorate away.

6. desmolit, December 3, 2009:

   ive been through this stuff before, and honestly, if they commit suicide for being ignored, thats not my fault. if they didnt bring it to anyones attention and just let it happen then its all on them. people commit suicide for selfish reasons and selfish reasons only. no one forced them to do it they chose that path……i know it sounds harsh and almost mean but its no ones fault but their own…..
   BUT i would feel sad that they felt that there was no other way to fix the problem…

7. hotwheel, December 3, 2009:

   You would feel Terrible and Bad that you did it to them. Like you wished you could take it back.. like you wanted to turn back time.
   Personally, i would cry for days and wish so much to be different.
   i hope it works out ;/

8. Im falling for you ?, December 3, 2009:

   i would feel guilty even if i didnt know the dude

9. yeah, i much fancy that, December 3, 2009:

   I’d feel like my goal was accomplished.

10. KornOnMy, December 3, 2009:

    Obviously you would feel pretty bad, but you can’t take on responsibility of another persons life, they are the ones that do that. Too often in relationships between men and women, one partner used the treat of committing suicide if the other wanted to leave them – it’s emotional blackmail. In your case within a group of friend, it’s a different reason, but all the same you have no control if they want to live or to die. It’s sad of course, but there is something wrong with the person in the first place, be that insecurity or what, you can not heal the things in their life that have gone wrong for them. This person obviously did not belong in this circle, so again why feel its your fault.
    We all have to face unpleasant things in life, others are not always kind to us, so we learn to mix with others that are suitable to our own characters, Becoming an adult really is quiet a rude awakening, you don;t act as a child say silly things to get what you want, this person I suspect had a very low self esteem, but they are the only person that can seek help for themselves, it’s not up to the rest of us. So please try to see it as it really was, this person choose to get out of it for good, you are not the one that pushed them to that, nor are you responsible for what they did. Be sad for them but don’t take blame on your shoulders, you are not guilty.
    No doubt you feel bad for perhaps going along with the others and ignoring this person, and no doubt in the future you will think more about how you treat others people as they come in and out of your life, but as I keep saying your not guilty for them ending their lives.

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