1. casey308, December 3, 2009:

   If he wants to talk he will talk.
   If i were you i wouldnt bring the subject up!
   I know somebody who is going thru the same thing! and im just there when they want to talk to somebody and all you are there for is for listening.
   Alot of mixed emotions is left with people after someone taking their own life. Hate,Love, Disbelief, Denial, Self blaiming… It is hard to deal with. Has he been through councilling?
   But as youve just met he proberbly doesnt want to open up and proberbly doesnt want to talk to you about it.
   Just be there as a good friend and if he wants to talk he will but otherwise dont let this get in the way of your friendship!
   Good Luck
   

2. likeacup, December 3, 2009:

   If you need to understand why people commit suicide, you need to contact a psychiatrist or suicide hot line.
   Leave the guy alone. When & If he feels like talking to someone about his brother, that will be his decision, not yours. He probably needs to talk with his parents, a counselor, psychologist or other medical professional before talking with an acquaintance of a few months.
   Obviously when he told you about his brother, he probably thought he could trust you to not tell the world.

3. squirrel, December 3, 2009:

   I have a good friend whose sister committed suicide years ago and he doesn’t talk about it much. He also didn’t know why she did it. He said that he is still angry with her. So maybe your friend is angry with his brother for just leaving everyone behind with no explanation and not asking for help first. But I don’t know, maybe you shouldn’t bring it up unless you notice him starting to have a problem and then just be a good friend and be there for him and suggest he get some help.

4. marmommy, December 3, 2009:

   I’ve found that when someone reveals a particularly traumatic time in their life to just let them talk and not ask questions. It might take a while, they are saying what they are comfortable in telling and they’ll tell the whole story eventually. Just make sure they know it’s ok for them to talk.

5. merlin, December 3, 2009:

   wow that’s big u what he has so far trusted with something so deep that anyone can tell u that for someone like him in that situation its hard to talk about it i think ur gonna have to let him continue to open up on him own like he did to u already then after that that’s when u can comfort him

6. chula_92, December 3, 2009:

   situations like this are meant for you to not push or bring up the subject. He will tell you in due time if he needs to. In the meantime just be supportive of him and just be his friend.

7. Missy, December 3, 2009:

   Maybe Just wait until he talks too you
   sometimes after something like that it can make everything seem worse when they talk about it im sure in time he will open up more x

8. Beth (: x, December 3, 2009:

   Let him open up about it when he wants to. Don’t try to pry it out of him.

9. Your Reality Check Bounced, December 3, 2009:

   He’s probably not ready to talk about it give him some time then bring it up again

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