1. Mike D, December 7, 2009:

   I really don’t think you should be asking for the answer on this site. You should speak to a member of her family and let them try and get her help.
   My first thought would be to speak to her Mum. Even if she is annoyed with you for it, it might save her life in the end. She must be absolutely desperate and the quicker you tell someone the better.
   Hope she gets sorted out.

2. Jayde--x, December 7, 2009:

   GFD chavs beat on old gf’s WTF? we in the US who are like “chavs” scatters (depends on what type of scatter you look at) dont do that to old gfs… holy sh** I would never hit a girl, ether im completely stupid or chavs are more violent that scatters… gfd i didn’t think that was possible

3. Agnes B, December 7, 2009:

   I know from experience how you feel, its really scary. Honestly the best you can do is be with her every second, and even if she will get mad at you for doing it , you HAVE to tell her parents,, your parents…anyone and explain it to them so that they completely understand the situation. I send my best wishes to you both and I hope that both of you are ok.
   -Pax et lepos

4. NovelWri, December 7, 2009:

   I feel that maybe your friend just really needs somebody to be there for her. I don’t know much but my major is psychology and I feel that maybe she just needs to know that someone is on her side and there for her. You could be the person to help save her life! Maybe she just needs a therapists to talk to, someone to tell her thoughts to, some one to trust…

5. Reek, December 7, 2009:

   Tell someone!!!
   Tell her parents- tell the other group of girls parents- tell the teachers!!!!
   Trust me, they will have the resources for your friend to get to a better place, and those other girls really need to be taught a lesson for doing something so terrible to your friend.

6. kt, December 7, 2009:

   give here thee number for Samaritans and make her phone them
   stand over her while she makes an appointment with her doctor and make sure she makes the appointment
   you are not trained to deal with this and they are
   leave it to the professionals.

7. D B, December 7, 2009:

   Have her commited. It is for her own safety.

8. robbinsg, December 7, 2009:

   if the girls bother her tell her to call the cops, if anything happens to her they could take care of them

9. zingwing, December 7, 2009:

   maybe she should move. it doesnt sound like she has anything to lose. sometimes moving and getting away and starting again really helps

10. fmlb, December 7, 2009:

    she should read religion like ISLAAM.

11. afra_mug, December 7, 2009:

    that serious tlk to her and if she is not listening i suggest gettin help even if she says she doesnt want it
    at the end she will appreciate it
    Good Luck Mama!

12. [(RuBy)], December 7, 2009:

    Tell her to get a good life insurance.

13. Cheaper2, December 7, 2009:

    Tell someone that you trust about this. Also comfort your friend and preside her not to do it.

14. Princess, December 7, 2009:

    suck up to her just in case she decides to leave a will.

15. Eat me!, December 7, 2009:

    Is there any way she can move schools?

16. matt g, December 7, 2009:

    tell her to pull her self together shes not a child so grow up

17. Shifty, December 7, 2009:

    do-it do-it do-it fracking do-it
    tell her to get life insurance
    and live on the edge shell die or go to prison where all life goes to die
    not yet

18. rick_lov, December 7, 2009:

    Whatever you do, tell her NOT TO DO IT! Tell her how much people care about her, and how she’ll be missed. Try to get to the point of suicide is not her last option. People obviously care about her. Tell her before you commit suicide, think about it with details. Why is she commiting suicide? Is confidence the only issue? Have her come with you, and call a SUICIDE 24 -Hr hotline. (1-800-273-TALK).
    She maybe doing this just for attention, or she really feels this way. Either way, it’s a cry for help. Advise her to see a counselor. She has a long life ahead of her! Also, you should consult a parent or a teacher. You must do this by law.

19. ? Someone ?, December 7, 2009:

    1) a self defense course would help her confidence, some.
    more importantly, it would give her reason to be less afraid of that girl, and that girl’s group of friends.
    2) she may be clinically depressed. she should check this out with a doc, psychiatrist, or psychologist
    3) Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem.
    things can change SO much in college, usually for the better. It would be a shame to commit suicide now, without finding out that life can be SO much better and more interesting than it is right now.

20. nickipet, December 7, 2009:

    Tell her parents and tell her college.
    She might hate you for a while, but when she gets out of this depression she will see what a friend you are.
    Why doesn’t she move away and have an adventure? She’s young – she can always go back to college in a few years. She could go somewhere as an au pair – she could go to the seaside and work as a waitress – there are a million things she can do to discover the world. It would be too sad to throw away her one and only life because of one girl on one course in one town in this world of over 6 billion people!

21. clio, December 7, 2009:

    Tell her she needs to take self-defence classes, get some pepper spray or mace to carry with her. Suicide is also the most selfish act there is a person can do. Your friendship should mean more to her than taking her own life. Counseling isn’t a bad idea either. She’s getting herself all worked up over nothing. The world could come to an end any day now, but do you see the rest of the world going crazy? No, we just go to work and pray that God protects us in our every day living and the ones we love. She needs to calm down and quit letting things get out of hand. Has there been anymore fights since then? Probally not, the girl made her point and that’s all there is to be said.You can’t go around living your life in fear, other wise it will take controll of you.

22. big al, December 7, 2009:

    She needs medical help from a psychiatrist that can prescribe her the appropriate medicine. Take her to the emergency room and get her to see someone on staff about how she is feeling. If she has been talking about suicide it is one of the biggest signs of depression and shouldn’t be taken lightly. If you care about her as much as you say you do you will tell her that you are worried and don’t like the fact that she is talking about suicide. Tell her you will accompany her to the hospital. The emergency room staff will interview her and ask her questions about how she is feeling. They will most likely admit her and prescribe her some medicine to help her over come the way she is feeling. She will then have to make regular visits to a psychiatrist for counseling until she can turn her feelings into more positive ones on her own. If she is being stubborn about seeing someone, be stubborn right back and tell her you care about her very much. You care about her well being more than her stubbornness not to seek help.

23. rana, December 7, 2009:

    You need to help her to talk to a trusted adult (a parent, godparent, grandparent, aunt, uncle, pastor, preacher, a best friend’s parent) immediately. An adult needs to give an adult perspective to her and help her to find a resolution to the problem. She’s anticipating a problem that may not actually be a problem once she gets there. For one thing, when young people act tough it is usually when they are in a group, and if she is in class with just one of them there is less likelihood that there would be a problem. She can’t live her life as a hermit just in case she were to run into these punks again. See if she can take a self defense class at night – karate, or something that would at least give her a sense of being able to defend herself if ever needed in her future life. She can do it, I was once a very mild, afraid young person who felt that everyone else was tougher and more secure and better than me, and I made it this far and grew and matured and realized that high school and the negativity I associated with it was behind me! Good luck to you both and God Bless!

24. tersey56, December 7, 2009:

    Let her know how much she will be missed by those around her. Tell her how much it would hurt you if she were gone. Sometimes people contemplating suicide can’t see past their own pain.
    Is there any way she can change her classes or is it too late. In the long run avoiding these girls won’t help her, but maybe she just needs a little more time before she faces one of them again.
    Definitely give her a big hug and let her know you’ll be there for her.
    Good luck

25. fly_t_mo, December 8, 2009:

    http://suicidehotlines.com/Go to this website.  There are phone numbers to call and talk to someone there.  I know she won’t go to counseling or call this number, but you can and talk to people there.  Don’t tell her suicide is stupid, don’t tell her you understand.  Tell her you are there to listen and to help her through everything.I tried to commit suicide when I was 13, but the gun didn’t go off.  I was bullied at school by both students and teachers, on the bus by all the other kids, and at home by my parents. I had no bully free time. The only thing that got me through those times was knowing that when I became an adult I could go through life without putting up with all that crap. I could go to college, get a degree, become a nurse, make my own money and make my own decisions. It was so completely worth it. I’m glad the gun didn’t go off.
    Good luck with your friend.

26. Molly, December 8, 2009:

    there is nothing you can do, i am in the same position as your friend i want to end my life but unlike ur friend she has people such as you and other friends and i dont have any i lost mine many years ago. i feel life is a struggle maybe like your friend. i wish her the best but really you just have to be there if the worst does come, im sorry if i havnt been much help! but i tryed good luck xx

27. ~x~Love~, December 8, 2009:

    Either she wants attention or she is really depressed. Either way give her the numbers of a suicide hotline.
    You can not control anyone. If she really wants to end her life she will. My uncle did it several years ago. I also had a friend that attempted many times (for attention) and she still has issues today.
    The important thing is that your friend is reaching out so she wants help and/or attention. Let her know that suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. We all have issues in life. You can either focus on the negative or the positive. Suicide is the only selfish option. She wants a way out of her one problems and is not thinking how it would affect others. Ask her to read “A New Earth” or “The Power of Now” by Eckart Tolle. The author even thought of suicide at one point in his life. Very interesting how he made it through. I think you and your friend would both enjoy the book.

28. Heatherr, December 8, 2009:

    Tell her parents. Even if she has to withdraw and change schools for a while that could help till she gets past all this. And it will pass, I promise. I went thru something similar and it passed…I am now in my late 20′s and have seen these girls (recently)…i could kick there asses now and its funny to see them….they are unattractive and pathetic. I have a wonderful job, kids, a husband…she could miss out on that if she takes the easy route out! Maybe she should take a self defense course…that could toatlly boost her confidence!!

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