1. VOTE MOUSAVI??, June 27, 2010:

   WOW! I think you should have dumped him yourself way earlier…

   Good Luck

2. CBoldrey, June 27, 2010:

   Don’t kill yourself silly, if you are able to feel this bad, then somewhere along the way you must have been pretty happy to have felt this bad, right? Life get better and life goes on.

3. Dude, June 27, 2010:

   Are you serious???? I would think you’d be happy. By the way you describe the relationship, it sucked! You need to read what you posted and ask yourself how you would answer if someone else asked the same thing.

4. fhghf :), June 27, 2010:

   atleast he dumped you now instead of getting married then getting divorced. my dad cheated on my mom and went back and forth from her to my mom.. my mom loves being alone.
   he doesn’t deserve you!

5. LoveMyHubbyandSon, June 27, 2010:

   i think you may be better off now. all those symtoms and it seems like he didnt want to be honest. there are lots of other guys out there.. jst give your self time to heal.. and u will find someone out there who will value u and your relationship.

6. Emma, June 27, 2010:

   You are only 35! I know you feel hopeless now but the feeling will get better with time. This guy sounds like an absolute loser and you are lucky to get away from him! Just call up some of your friends or family and talk with them about it. Talking it through can be very helpful. Don’t end your life because you are still so young and will find a much greater love in the future that is worth living for.

7. notagain49, June 28, 2010:

   35 is still young and I bet there are millions of men out there that would love to spend time with you.You are smart enough to not fall into a trap where you could have caught something that would kill you.
   Take some time and then find someone that will love you and enjoy spending his life with you.You are still young enough to find love.Be happy.Good luck.

8. Piggy, June 28, 2010:

   He went for 7 years without sex? No wonder he was a wreck.

9. LIPPIE, June 28, 2010:

   Why would you commit suicide over someone that has a decease, that is probably a junkie, and you never had sex with. I would have been glad that some body came along and took the loser away. You know 35 is not old, so why are you feeling so sorry for yourself. Get out there and live.

10. edn, June 28, 2010:

    It is painful to loose someone who was part of your being.
    You did all the right things and so cannot be blamed for what happened.

    God does things for our own good. Turn to spirituality. It will help heal your hurt quicker.

11. hotlavaflows2u, June 28, 2010:

    You need to WAKE UP!!! What is wrong with you? You need a reality check!!!
    You just described someone who sounds he has HIV, and then you explain how loveless your relationship was in the first place….
    So after he leaves you….it makes you suicidal?
    Sorry but it sounds almost as if you are bipolar and needs some anti-depressants!!!
    Suicide is a coward’s way out, and it is very selfish! Stop being so self centered and find something positive!
    Ask yourself about the ones you will leave behind?
    What about your ridiculous reason for wanting to die?
    How could you want to die over a guy who may well have a deadly disease that could potentially kill you anyways?
    You should feel sorry for his new girlfriend!
    Unless you know somewhere deep down inside that you are just paranoid!

12. sunshine97, June 28, 2010:

    I’m not even sure where to begin with this one. I will tell you that your life is worth a whole lot more then any man. I know right now you feel that your life is over but with time the hurt passes. You need to give yourself the time to grieve for your lose. You also need to think about other things, like how where you planning on spending the rest of your life with a man that you could have no sort of intimate relationship with and rightly so. Something is obviously going on with him and his health, you were wise to not travel down that road, however were you prepared to spend the rest of your life in a relationship without any physical contact? As far as being 35 years old, honey I divorced my husband of almost 20 years at 39 years old, and a year and a half after that I found a wonderful man, so you are certainly not too old to move on and find someone that you can spend the rest of your life with. The pain you feel is real and I understand that but you need to seek some sort of help too get you thru all of this and I am willing to bet when all is said and done you will look at this experience in your life as a learning one and be able to move on to happier things. Good luck. Feel free to contact me anytime if you need someone to talk too.

13. Little M, June 28, 2010:

    WTF…This whole thing is effed up!

14. justin p, June 28, 2010:

    Killing your self should never be an option. What he did too you was flat out wrong. However there has to be a reason you wanted him to take an HIV test and I don’t doubt whatever reason you had. Apparently his illness proved that he apparently cheated on you or something and there he proved what type of guy he really is. Killing your self over this guy is defiantly not worth it. The best thing to do in this situation is throw everything away that will bring you memory of this guy and try your best to erase him from your memory. Lift your chin up high and seek out your friends and start moving on with your life. Find someone close to you to help you with coping with this and to talk to. On weekends go out, hang out with friends or co-workers or something. I know you have friends just call them and schedule some nights to go out and have fun. Yes getting over someone you loved for SO long is hard too do but don’t go kill yourself over one guy its not worth it. There are lots of guys out there that would like to meet you and get to know you and what not just got to lift yourself up and go out and have some fun.

15. LAgirl, June 28, 2010:

    Joy is the absence of fear. Joy is your soul’s knowledge that if you don’t get the promotion, keep the relationship, or buy the house, it’s because you weren’t meant to. You’re meant to have something better, something richer, something deeper, something more…..

    Joy is where your life began, with your first cry. Joy is your birthright.

16. sloegin, June 28, 2010:

    Well, you didn’t do anything wrong. He should have just gotten the test if he didn’t have anything to hide.
    Next…the woman he cheated with is no prize honey. If she is a big enough whore to be with someone who was already in a relationship, then sooner or later they will break up because they’ll realize they can’t trust each other.
    Next, he was not “your life” as you say. You had a life before and you’ll have one again and probably a much better one. It doesn’t seem like it now, but you will look back with relief when you meet someone that you can have a normal relationship with.
    Last…35?! What’s wrong with that? You act like you’re old or something. You’re in your prime sweetie. Don’t throw your life away.
    Hit your knees and talk to God. Who better to help you through the darkest times in your life?

    You can’t see it now, but someday, you will be so glad you decided to live your life…I promise.

17. kathy, June 28, 2010:

    he did you a favor dumping you. he doesn’t care for his own health why should he care for yours. he also wants you to think nobody else would want you so why make him happy. you said you two never had sex because he would not have a hiv test. that tells me you care what happens to you so why even think of killing yourself. don’t give him a second thought and move on with you life. find someone who really care about you because he don’t even care for his self.

18. Regis, June 28, 2010:

    Hey baby. Sounds like he just did you a favor. You weren’t in a good relationship anyway. The guy had too many problems and you weren’t getting enough satisfaction.

    You need to get over your dependency on men because you don’t need a man to justify your life. There are plenty of good men out here who don’t have the problems he had. And they’re looking for you.

    Go make yourself available to others by going out and being social. Better yet, open up and contact some Real men like me. (I’m disease free, not afraid to take any tests and have no BS reasons to have physical problems)

    Put on some sexy clothes and I guarantee you’ll have more men than you can imagine trying to get next to you. You are at the perfect age, mature enough to enjoy and understand, yet young enough to be wild and free.

    Live it up and forget the past. It sucked anyway. Move on to a better future. I know it hurts now, but there is so much more and better waiting for you. You just need to embrace it and let it happen.

    Besides, how do you know they’re really happy? If he’s the jerk you make him out to be, it won’t last long at all (Be GLAD you got away and you should pity the poor girl who’s with him now). She may have no idea what she’s gotten herself into. Maybe they deserve each other. But you certainly don’t deserve him.

    **SWEET MILDRED IS MY LEADER..JOIN ME IN HER PLAYPEN**

19. Johnno, June 28, 2010:

    The best reason NOT to commit suicide would be the fact they might like it!! Stay alive, stay around and make there life misery till you feel a sense of satisfaction!

20. traci c, June 28, 2010:

    you think he might have had hiv purple blotches puking red rashes flu like symptoms! feel thankful he left and know you have a second chance. and he didnt brush his teeth you should have threw him out just for that.YUCK

21. 2Westies, June 28, 2010:

    Good grief, you haven’t had sex for 7 years because he might be hiv positive and he hasn’t brushed his teeth for two years. I’m sorry that you’re depressed but personally I’d rather be alone. Go see a counselor.

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