1. american-cheeseburger, July 1, 2010:

   Join The Marine

2. Cupcake, July 1, 2010:

   Most ppl that are really truly going to commit suicide don’t tell anyone at all. She’s just trying to get your attention.

3. Dude, July 1, 2010:

   My ex used to tell me she was gonna kill herself. She just wanted attention.

4. Guns N' Roses, July 1, 2010:

   call the suicide hotline and ask there.
   she needs mental help.

5. Ethereal1ty, July 1, 2010:

   I think she is just trying to get attention from you and is saying that just to try to get you back she probably wont if you don’t go back out with her. Just don’t call her out on her if she is bluffing or she might do it

6. Steph, July 2, 2010:

   idk her but it sounds like she is just saying that to get you back and you fell for it. i feel bad for her cause im sure every girl knows what it feels like to wanna be with a guy that doesnt want you. i would say see her in person and tell her how you really feel and that you dont wanna hurt her but if u stay with her u will be hurting her cause you dont want her like that anymore. idk if she would really off herself but just be careful of what you say….good luck sorry i kno that probably didnt help much =[

7. Pandora, July 2, 2010:

   Sounds like a ploy to get you to take her back. You don’t say how old you are, but if you know she is living with mom and dad call them and let them know you are worried about her because the text. If she live alone and you don’t know her family there is always calling a friend of hers and telling them they should get over to her. Or you can always call 911 and tell them, they will do a wellness check. but honestly it sounds like she is looking for attention from you. Don’t get back together with her.

8. Raven, July 2, 2010:

   she used the suicide line to get your attention and it worked, just break up with her if she cries suicide again show the text to the police or her parents and that will put a stop to it changing your number is always an option.

9. kate2nut, July 2, 2010:

   I think you should have a good talk with her. explain her that everything is over and such. make sure that she understand that scine will not bring you back.

10. Baby boy due on October 26! :), July 2, 2010:

    I hate people like this. Most people who are going to ACTUALLY commit suicide aren’t going to say anything about it and just do it. People who are seriously unhappy about their life aren’t going to tell anyone because they don’t want people interfering like this. My best friend committed suicide. And people like this who do it just to get their ex’s back or for attention completely sicken me. It’s disgusting. People are actually out there contemplating shooting themselves in the mouth and then there are people like this girl who tell their ex-boyfriends that they’re going to slit their wrists because he cheated on them. Ugh. Go ahead and give them thumbs down, I expect it. It’s the truth though -_-

    Anyway. Now it’s time for actual advice away from my ranting.

    If she’s seriously unstable, it was the wrong thing to do taking her back like that. It’s giving her false hope. Which is so not healthy for suicidal people. I know you were in a position where you felt like you had to, and it’s horrible that she put you there, but feeding into her really didn’t help the situation any. Because now, a few days, maybe weeks, maybe months down the road when you realize you’re missing out because you were moving on and she’s not the person you want to be with and you’re unhappy, and you break up with her, her hopes and spirits will be extremely high – and then they’ll drop, and fast. And if she’s LEGITIMATELY suicidal, then it’ll hit, hard.

    When she calms down a little, I’d tell her in person how you really feel. That you felt kind of pressured into the whole relationship because you do care for her, and you didn’t know how else to calm her down or make her feel any better and you didn’t want her hurting herself. But you have to do it soon, the longer you drag on the whole thing, the higher you’re new found girlfriend’s hopes and spirits are going to get and the harder they’re going to crash once you do break it to her.

    Honestly, in my opinion.. having the experience of actually TRYING to commit suicide, being in a psych ward full of people who wanted to, and having my best friend kill himself, it seems to me she was just extremely upset and was looking for some way to get your attention, she wasn’t serious about killing herself. Because like I said, people who are really going to do it, don’t tell anyone. So I don’t think you have much to worry about.
    And after you do break up with her, she might pull this again. And then that’s when you scare her out of it and say “Okay, (insert name here), if you’re seriously going to kill yourself I’m going to have to call the police and tell someone.” I guarantee you she’ll take it back, then. In fear of being admitted to a psychiatric ward.

11. elijah_wilkes, July 2, 2010:

    Not healthy any you cut it. She needs help before she will be able to function in any relationship. I see your panic response but dont think it is a good idea as it will only perpetuate the problem and the next time you break it off she’ll just do it again. I doubt she’ll kill herself but who the hell knows. I dont know bro, but if you care about her you should seek help for her and encourage her to do the same. I dont where you’ll find that help but im sure someone on here does.

    DONT HAVE SEX WITH HER! It will twist her head even farther in the wrong direction. Break it off in person, explaining that she is a good FRIEND whom you care about and you think she needs to talk to someone about her attachment issues (but dont say “attachment issues”).

    on a side note… “were im like dang”…I owe many laughs my friend.

12. Shor_loves_Viorel09, July 2, 2010:

    Ohhh boy, that trick works everytime. You shouldn’t say something that you can’t keep. Learn from this. Only promise if you can keep it and carry through with it. Be easy on her, maby soon you can break up with her. You have to show her that you are not the one, I don’t care how you do it. She has already promise that she won’t kill herself anyways. I’m sure she won’t, she’s just saying that so that you will get scared and take her back. You don’t love her, if she kills herself, so what, it’s not your fault. If she kills herself, it’s not because of you, it’s because of her being stupid, so if she kill herself, she won’t be able to come back and hunt you. If she died because of you, that will be a different story.

13. karismhs, July 2, 2010:

    I highly doubt she kills herself. Just a desperate act to get you back. However if you cheated on her numerous times and she still wants you she obviously does have issues!

14. changeishere, July 2, 2010:

    I was in the position your gf was in. I know it’s a really bad and selfish thing to do but in my circumstance I was not lying. I never followed through but I am still seriously depressed. When you are in that position you really thing there is no other way to cope. If someone says something like that you need to take it seriously. Have a talk to her and explain things. For a break-up lots of people recommend no contact, but for me, it has been the worst thing ever. Explain to her your feelings. In my case her being there and helping me through it as a friend would have helped so much, but you need to make it clear that it is over and you are just helping. Change the support from yourself to other people over time and you will hopefully break up with grace.

15. TobyP, July 2, 2010:

    Put your grown up pants on and end the relationship for good. Most people who talk about suicide in the terms you have mentioned, are looking for attention. If the person is dark & depressive, &Truly going down hill, you need to tell someone who can actually help them. Unless you have training, you won’t help them. Staying their boyfriend to keep them from killing themselves, get real. They have a real problems, or they just don’t know how to let go. Figure out which on it is. Don’t know how to let go… dragging it on is more cruel. Truly suicidal, get real help.

16. Lady Domina, July 2, 2010:

    this is a classic case of someone manipulating you.
    no matter what happens, you are not responsible for her committing suicide because she has to be f*d up in many other ways besides just losing a bf.

    You’re being played.

    LD

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