1. millmill, July 2, 2010:

   tell her that you really care about her. and tell her she can talk to you about anything. anything….
   dont let her.

2. Kimberly, July 2, 2010:

   get her a councelor

3. jen_rlk, July 2, 2010:

   YOU NEED TO TELL SOMEONE.
   A counselor.
   A teacher.
   A parent.
   The police.

4. Daniel D, July 2, 2010:

   She probably wont do it. I can tell you guys are about 14 years of age by your grammar skills.

5. ito, July 2, 2010:

   if you like her tell her not to cuz you love/like her a lot and beg. hope it works.

   tell an adult….

6. evangldbrg, July 2, 2010:

   seriously have a talk with her parents or any adult authority. or have her call a suicide hotline. I had a friend who did this once, and we got him a psychologist and he called the suicide hotline once a week and it has been 2 years and he hasnt thought of it since.

7. lauriravanell, July 2, 2010:

   Son this is nothing to be taken lightly, u need to tell someone that she is contemplating this, it is better to piss a friend off than to find a friend dead sweetie

8. orangememonkey, July 2, 2010:

   tlk to her and also you can tell a phsyciatrist and they will watch the person so it is less likely for them to commit suicide
   ask her what is wrong most people that are in the state of that just need a friend someone to tlk to listening iss prolly the best thing you can do be there for her

9. emi m, July 2, 2010:

   giving up on life isn’t gonna help because once you kill yourself your gonna be even more miserable in hell

10. Helen of Troy, July 2, 2010:

    Call the speak out hotline! tell a trusted adult! tell a counselor! DO SOMETHING!!!!!! You’re a good friend, trying to help them.

11. witchy woman in Ohio, July 2, 2010:

    you should tell a family member anybody before she does it call the suicide hot-line for advice

12. Jerry R, July 2, 2010:

    call 911 right now! tell them where she is, tell them that she is a danger to herself, and tell them they layout of her home so they can take her into custody. this may sound harsh, but if she is suicidal, she will thank you for doing it later.

13. Travis P, July 2, 2010:

    Tell someone, quickly- either a parent or some kind of counselor. If she goes through with it….Trust me, it will haunt you for the rest of your life. I know.

14. KK B, July 2, 2010:

    I can’t help I tried everything with my BFF and so far haven’t gotten anywhere with it

    i hope you can help your frind

15. Chick M, July 2, 2010:

    Let her know that suicide has been romanticized too much. The truth of it is very ugly. With an overdose, you vomit all over yourself and pee and sometimes even poop yourself, and then you are found like that. It is best to live out your life and go out naturally with dignity. If the person is young, also explain that everything seems like a big deal now, but years into the future, it will not be a huge horrible thing.

16. Maddster, July 2, 2010:

    TALK TO HER. you have to stop it, no matter what. talk to her and try to convince her that there’s hope, and she could get help. But, be careful when suggesting help, they might get snappy when you suggest they see someone. Tell her how much you mean to her, as a friend. OR, you can bring it to an adult or the authorities that she is suicidal.

17. zanthus, July 2, 2010:

    You can’t help this girl yourself. You need to get her to call one of those distress lines or get some other form of counselling or take her to your school counsellor or something. Please don’t think she is not being serious. This is a cry for help so please get her the help she needs. Don;t ignore it and think everything is OK because it is not.

18. Atheist!®, July 2, 2010:

    Intervention…get a meeting together.

19. rachellll, July 2, 2010:

    you need to sit down and talk to her, tell her that you mean a lot to her, and if this doesnt help, you need to get her help, even if she tells you not to tell anyone, just think, would you rather her not be there any more, or have her be mad at you for a while, i had to do this for a friend, and they were mad at me for a while, but just recently they came out and thanked me for doing that for them. goodluck:]

20. Jen, July 2, 2010:

    Call the helpline. I had a friend who threatened suicide on me three times within a year, nothing I said could help — use the helpline.

21. makemeaspark, July 2, 2010:

    always take this seriously–which means as a true friend help enlist a support group of people who truly love her who will help her through this rough time–especially family–if her living situation or family are causing the problem see if you can get her out of there or to a place that can help

22. mystique, July 2, 2010:

    tell her that there’s, more to life. Sometimes, she just has to look at the bright side of things. Tell her that you’ll get hurt if she does what she is planning to do, tell her that you’ll be there for her no matter what. Suicidal people thinks that everything in their lives is not working for them so make her feel important…

23. m s, July 2, 2010:

    You definately want to get her to some help ASAP. But you also need to express to her how much you would be hurt if she did something and that it SO SELFISH to do something like that because she would only be thinking about her problems. All problems are temporary, a better day will come her way she just needs to be patient. Hope everything works out for the best :0)

24. nightfalldarkness, July 2, 2010:

    tell her noooooooooooo

25. leo, July 2, 2010:

    get professional help immediately!!

26. ?M?E?, July 2, 2010:

    hug her and tell her that suicide is never the answer explain to her how much life is important

    dont let her commit a suicide!!

    good luck

27. Ashbone, July 2, 2010:

    i would seriously talk to her. she obviously needs you right now. dont say anything to put her down just try to talk to her as a concerned friend. tell her you care about her too much to loose her as your friend. honestly try to be around her as much as you can. if that doesnt seem to help…i would contact someone who can help her. this is a serious matter and im sure you dont want to see anything bad happen to her. i dont know what her reasons are but i will say this…..things can ALWAYS be worse than we all think.

28. sadeaf1, July 2, 2010:

    try to give her counseling BUT DO NOT LEAVE HER ALONE
    EVEN WITH FAMILY cause that makes the sitution more dangerous.

29. heri623, July 3, 2010:

    You should call a suicide prevention line. I’d call ASAP this is a serious issue. Some people may argue that when someone says they’re going to commit suicide, they’re really not. That its just a cry for help but do you really want to take that risk? 1.800.SUICIDE (784-2433)

30. altima, July 3, 2010:

    dude help her out i mean dont let her be alone do everything that you can wether its being there for her to talk to you at 3 in the morning or anything i tell you this cuz i whent through that same situation but i didnt believe my friend … she killed herself 2 weeks later and till this day i regret not being there and believing her i still sometimes blame myself but i hope you do the right thing alot of times people just need someone to lean on

31. liz, July 3, 2010:

    If you care for her and you know that she is serious about commiting suicide…STEP IN NOW…talk to her and if she won’t listen t’s time to get help from her parents, counselors whoever and whatever by all mean. Beacause if something happens and you could’ve stopped it, you will feel the guilt. GET HER HELP BEFORE SOMETHING HAPPEN. I’ve lost 2 friends to suicide get help before it’s to late. TALK TO HER FIRST BUT GET HER HELP

32. ellen, July 3, 2010:

    Wow, thats scary, I don’t know what you should do. Would theropy help. Talk to her and try to comfort her, make sure shes donsn’t commit suicide though, I am hoping she can get over it. goodluck.

33. starjademoon85, July 3, 2010:

    If she wanted to kill herself, then she would have already done it. She wouldn’t have given you a heads up. She’s telling you because she needs you or she needs for someone/anyone to give her a reason not to do it. Try to help her value her life. Don’t sacrifice yourself in any way, but just be a friend. Be there for her. If that doesn’t work, then you could always alert her parents. Maybe they can be of help. If they’re not in the picture then you could try getting her into counseling. If none of that works, then there isn’t much you can do. You can’t stop anyone from doing what they really want to do. Sorry bud, but don’t beat yourself up if she does this to herself. She makes her ultimate decisions. Maybe you can sway her, but if not, then learn to live with it.
    Best of Luck

34. ixydrax, July 3, 2010:

    You have to give the reasons. If you really want to help your friend, you have to tell us the reasons. Don’t worry, there’s no way someone can trace the reasons back to your friend (unless you tell us her name, which you shouldn’t). Whatever the reasons are, tell her it’s not worth suiciding, life will get better for her at least because she has a friend.

35. kevin w, July 3, 2010:

    Take a few steps:
    1)Try to find what’s making her feel this way, either by watching for signs, (mean parents, bad husband, etc. I don’t know what it is) or approach her with that question somehow. Maybe talk to her about it.
    2)Confront that person/problem and try to explain that they’re really hurting someone inside.
    3)Ask your friend to talk to that person, (if it’s parents, tell them why you feel so, what makes you feel that way)
    4)Try to discuss with your friend how to cope with that problem.
    *Tip: Try to be the person that she can say anything to. Try to refrain from any opposing opinions, stay away from even constructive criticism.

36. Mrs.Jessica, July 3, 2010:

    Well whatever those 4 reasons of hers are- none of them are good enough to commit suicide. You should tell her just cuz she thinks her life sucks she should take a look around at others. There are people for worse off then her. There are no good reasons for that choice. She should seek some type of counseling someone she can talk to and open her mind up to. Tell her how much u love her and care what happends to her. Maybe that will help her out….

37. maddie, July 3, 2010:

    Ok, tell her you love her or something. Usally people who want to kill themselves want to do it cause they are not loved. If you are really good friends you would do this for her. I think you should keep being nice to her and tell other people to be nice to her, too. Omg…..I have had this happen to some close people and….it’s terrible. You need to do what is right. Never give up. I am serious.
    She may feel that she can’t go on another moment, another day.

    Life may be absolutely unbearable. She may want to just close her eyes and cease to exist.

    But death does not come so easily. And although she cannot bear it, she still lives on — her heart still beats, her breath ceaselessly enters…
    ~maddie
    HELP HER

38. TINKERBELLE, July 3, 2010:

    I don’t know how old you both are, if she has any family that cares about her tell them what she’s up to. You can’t take this on all by yourself. If it gets really bad call the suicide hot line, they will help. Is she really capable of it? This is something you don’t want on your conscience if it should happen. That is a great weight to carry on your shoulder.

39. AHJH, July 3, 2010:

    This is such a serious issue. When dealing with someone who seeks to kill themselves, it seems there are always a few reasons underlying each person’s own unique situation…One could possibly be the fact that something has happened in their life and they feel unable to reverse its affects and cannot stand to face the consequences. Another is that in their mind they are worthless, no longer worthy of living…no one would miss them.

    It seems that when someone wants to commit suicide and they’ve reached out and told someone – its because they’re reaching out for help…be there for your friend. Listen to her…you don’t have to solve her problems or her life…just be there. Show her that life is worth living, that HER LIFE is worth living.

    Here are some websites you could possibly check out:
    http://www.reachout.com.au
    http://www.helpguide.org/mental/suicide_prevention.htm

    I do not know if this helps, but I will be praying for you and for your friend.

40. Adelaide B, July 3, 2010:

    I think your friend needs to know that Jesus loves her and died for her so that she may live.
    All of us are born spiritually dead and separated from God.
    And because of this we are dead in our sins and a slave to Satan who torments us night and day.
    On the cross Jesus took upon Himself all of our sins,past,future and present and was sorely punished for them.
    And because of this we can be forgiven for our sins and receive the Holy Spirit who will love us and be our guide.
    Once you receive the Holy Spirit you will no longer be a slave to sin and tormented by Satan instead you’ll be protected and safe because you’ll have the mark of God in your mind and in your heart and the devil won’t be able to do anything to you ever again.
    If your friend kills herself she will forever be damned to hell where like everyone who goes there will be trespassing because hell was created for Lucifer and the fallen angels not us Gods children.
    She needs to be saved so she can fully realize what its like to live for the first time instead of always remaining dead and lifeless without her Heavenly Father.
    I know this is what she needs because I was once in the same situation and when I found Christ and was delivered from the desire to sin and lived free for the first time in my life all I wanted to do after that was sing and dance to show how happy I was.
    I hope your friend is OK and nothing more happens to her to cause her to feel this way.
    God bless you both.

41. Angel, July 3, 2010:

    You could try talking to her about the reasons she wants to do this. Tell her how much you care about her, people in this state of mind never realize how many people would miss them if they’re gone. Regardless of what you say to her I think you need to contact someone who can help you and who can maybe talk to her. Whatever you choose to do, let an adult (parent, guardian, teacher..) know and take action as soon as possible. She may just be sad but you never want to take the chance of waiting and being too late. Here are some sites that might help a little bit on how to approach her. Good luck.

    http://www.suicideinfo.ca/
    http://www.suicidepreventionhelp.com/
    http://www.metanoia.org/suicide/whattodo.htm
    http://suicidehotlines.com/

42. charlie e, July 3, 2010:

    Please tell her to think about you, her friends, her family and anyone she has talked to. My son riped my heart out, affected his family and loved ones and people we met in our ordinary daily life. Every one who knew him was saddened. Within weeks his life would have opened up to a whole new life with all new possibilities. imisshim

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