1. Mike, July 4, 2010:

   Your Aunt is a money grabbing…you know what.

   Her reason for not speaking to anyone is an attempt to suck more money her way from the family.

   I would just ignore her…and let her live her own life.

2. unschoolymomma, July 4, 2010:

   You don’t owe her anything. I would break all contact with this woman, Change your phone number so she can no longer contact you. Ignore any resposes. She is in Israel so I doubt very seriously if she will ever come back to the states or Canada to visit.

   She sounds like a pyscho and you don’t need that kind of stress.

3. Uchit W, July 4, 2010:

   The point of life insurance is that she got money. She’s an adult, if she can get money herself, she doesn’t need you. If she doesn’t want to associate with you, then don’t associate with her, IN ANY WAY. Overall, she seems very selfish and self-centered. I’d say to cut your ties with her and move on (no money for her).

4. Jessica J, July 4, 2010:

   No. Your family should not have to support her.

5. oralee67, July 4, 2010:

   There is no reason at all that this woman is entitles to be financially supported by her husbands family unless this is a tradition in your family or religion. Unfortunately by giving in to her demands in the past the family has led her to believe it is okay. personally I think they should cut her off financially and let her look after herself they owe her nothing and have infact alreadsy given too much!

6. angel, July 4, 2010:

   Are u all for real why in the world would any of you give her money it’s not your family’s responsibility to support this women as you said she received money from a life insurance and she doesn’t want to have any thing to do with y-all i wouldn’t give her the time of day if i where u all

7. honey, July 4, 2010:

   She is wrong. If she wants a steady stream of income she should either get a job or find a rich man to marry.

8. Joe G, July 4, 2010:

   she need a husband?

9. tami j, July 4, 2010:

   My brother killed himself and tore all of us out of the frame. We got nothing of his and we have truly gone through hell with the loss of him. My life will never be the same. It hurts so bad sometimes it is hard to deal with but we have too. She does not deserve anything from his family and it is hard to believe she thinks she should get something from his death. Deal with the loss on your own and let her just be. She is just stupid to think anyone owes her anything.

10. AnaT, July 4, 2010:

    No…I don’t think your aunt deserves a steady stream of money. I think your family did outstandingly well by giving what you already have considering that most families wouldn’t have even done that much. I think that she is using sympathy and family loyalty to get what she can financially out of your family. I was always told that you truly find out a persons character during weddings and funerals and I believe that’s true. Don’t fall prey to her guilt trips. Because giving her money isn’t making the loss of your uncle any less painful. She got enough when she was given the insurance money.

11. Chels, July 4, 2010:

    Um…no, your family doesn’t ‘owe’ her anything. Sounds to me like she expects her deceased husband’s family to take up where he left off when he passed on. That is not your family’s responsibility. He left her a life insurance policy and she received financial help when she would have needed it most. She needs to support herself.

12. greta, July 4, 2010:

    very obvious here – she is an ungrateful opportunist who thinks the entire world owes her a lot and she owes people nothing.

    all of u remove any contact whatsoever with her. if she does not want u to meet her kids – all the more better. going on guilt trip and giving her money – will be abs down the drain.

    about blaming her for suicide – well i wdn’t do that.

13. carol, July 4, 2010:

    Your Aunt is disrespectful to your entire family and in my opinion does not deserve a thing. She needs to get herself a job and get a real life and love her family whether they can give her anything or not. She is using everybody here and when she does not get her way withholds the children from their family. She has control issues and this is not showing a good heart to me. If this is how she is going to be then she needs to find another family that will put up with her and leave yours alone. when the children are older and able to think for themselves then allow them into your lives if they think to show up in the future.

14. i AM standing up! :D, July 4, 2010:

    Sounds like she doesn’t understand that you and your family suffered a loss as well! No she should not get a steady stream of money, your family has helped her way more than most would, considering shes not even a blood relative. She should not even expect that of her family, I can see her needing and appreciating a bit of help….but expecting it…no. And its been long enough for her to find a way to support herself. Don’t feel guilty, she is definately in the wrong.

15. mom_single_sexy, July 4, 2010:

    She does not deserve a steady flow of money. It is not the rest of the burden of the rest of the family to support her. I think they were quite generous with what they gave her. She got life insurance and should have been more careful with it.

16. lions, July 4, 2010:

    wow thats all i can say is wow
    nobody owes her anything
    your poor uncle
    he must have felt so used so unloved.

17. janetrmi, July 4, 2010:

    Nope, there is a saying…Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me. She guilted your folks out of $5,000, plus whatever else she got from the rest of the family. I’m very surprised she got any money out of the life insurance, because normally money is not paid out when someone commits suicide.

    It’s time to cut her out. She’s just looking for a free handout.

18. ttt520328, July 4, 2010:

    It takes a calm mind to tackle this confusion especially when it is a family matter where the heart/feeling governs the rationality. Here,we are celebrating CNY,i am chinese nevertheless i shall help to
    disentangle these knots a little. Starting to say, your aunt is one kind of a human, she has her reasons to everything and bites on it where situations warrant;the death of a close mate is the reason for the demand or privileges, that privileges do not have a right ;it is still a privilege due to family tie and it shall be ruled with willingness and ability. The swing of mood following your uncle passing is momentary and the refusal to see anyone is normally due to a gust of contempt or unhappiness to the demand of immediate help. It is actually a show of frustration. She is still confused about rights and privileges.She is just looking after her interests or considering things around her whilst failing to think of others,you usually try to forgive humans for that and you shall forgive her. It is a merit to understand this in life and it is not easy. It is not easy to understand where the mistakes laid and it is harder to see it before making one. She is unreasonable and hope that you shall not unintentionally turn into one of such. She is in a sorry state to demand for more that adequate when she already had it and if
    given, it is just an overused privilege.( if i would demand cash help from you, your reasoning will be clear and quick, as the link seems).
    The heart is the matter and it is that simple and hurting.

19. prankishmelody, July 4, 2010:

    Your aunt just expects the family to support her for the rest of her life? Tell her to get off of her lazy a** and get a job! All of the ins. money and the rest is gone? Sounds like she’s just a money grubbing waste of time to me!

20. bindysdogs, July 4, 2010:

    First, I don’t know anything about Jewish Traditions. I don’t know if this is the way folks do when it comes to money and giving to your relatives after a death.
    Now that I have said that…in my world here is my answer. Your Aunt is using the family, and the family is allowing her this behavior. She has benefits from his death as you stated, your family for whatever reason has already given more than I would have. She would have got zero from me. If she were hungry without a roof over her head I would have offered her food and a roof until she could get on her feet. Other than that she would have gotton nothing. When a person calls only for money that tells the story right there. She could afford to go to Israel, she has kids and she has worked for real estate. I would call her a scam artist and the family for whatever guilt they feel, or because of their religious beliefs are letting her get away with this behavior. Wow….feel for you and the family

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