1. Court211, November 24, 2009:

   No, usually a person committing suicide needs someone else to blame. Truthfully though the problem lies within inner feelings and not being able to express them correctly. There are built up feelings about their surroundings, about MANY people, not just one and about their past. It’s a pent up feelings and frustrations and usually they feel that they can’t feel that they can’t vent these feelings to anyone. So they commit suicide. No one is personally responsible, not even the person that committed suicide, they were looking for a way out and that is the only way they could see it. They need to be able to talk to someone, close friend, family member or councillor.

2. Violators will be prosecuted, November 24, 2009:

   I might be tempted, since I tend to generally feel guilty for things. BUT I will tell you that you are NEVER the reason someone takes their lives.. They may very well be upset over something that involved you, but to go to the point of taking their own life over that reason or anything else involves other mental illness, like depression or bipolar. Basically, if it wasn’t you, it would eventually be something or someone else that in their mind, pushed them to this.
   If it is a case of not heeded warnings, don’t be hard on yourself. Most people don’t really think that others will follow through, and interestingly, those that do try to intervene and help are not very successful. Someone who is determined to end their lives usually finds a way to do so.
   So yes, I would question myself, but I would also know that I was not to blame.

3. Napa_gir, November 24, 2009:

   cupcakes
   The only thing that I know of on the line of what I think you are asking is this…..Those who have committed the act of suicide is gone, their pain, their suffering. But, because of their action, the ones that they left behind are the ones that are feeling the guilt of ….if only I had noticed….if only I had of talked to them….If only I had of_______Family’s, friends of those who have committed this act hurt and feel it is their fault. If you feel responsible for the death of your friend, or loved one, you really need to talk to a professional who can help you deal with these emotions. Your feelings are real, and painful, but you will find when you talk to the professional that it was not your fault

4. bindysdo, November 24, 2009:

   people commit suicide because they are mentally ill and suffering from extreme depression. they may blame their feelings on an external cause and choose to blame someone. however, unless you actively encouraged them to top themselves i doubt you are the real reason for them committing suicide. seek professional help.

5. Timelord, November 24, 2009:

   NO my EX always said I am going to kill myself if you leave me….I would cry and say Ok I will stay. We are in our 20s and I realized after him doing this to me he was controlling me and it was his way of holding on to me.
   I also realized he was a Sicko and finally after 5 years left him and told him if he felt killing himself was best for him.. he had my blessing but he was never going to make me feel guilty or take my soul away. I am a happier person and he is still a Sicko.

6. KAT, November 24, 2009:

   I would. Depending on what I did. If I really said some nasty things, then yes it’s my fault. But it’s possible that the person was just an idiot who misunderstood everything. Honestly though, you can’t let people live your life; I know this is a very nasty thing to say, but he/she lost his/her life, you still have yours, so just forget about it and continue living.

7. gr1m, November 24, 2009:

   Absolutely not. Unless the person takes another innocent person before him. Then I would.
   Either way, Suicide is a stupid way to go. You mean to tell me you’d take your own life because you don’t like the cards dealt to you?! Go ahead, let your silly sss disappear.

8. Paul A, November 24, 2009:

   You are not the reason for the suicide, no matter what happened between you. The person that committed suicide was obviously emotionally ill, and the fault lies there; not with you.

9. chrisk, November 24, 2009:

   People only commit suicide because of themselves, not someone else. Even if they leave a note and blame it all on you, it was still their choice to end it instead of doing something productive about it

10. anastasi, November 24, 2009:

    your are never the reason for someone committing suicide. A person commits suicide because they are mentally unbalanced and can’t legitimately deal with issues in their life its not your fault at all it is theirs.

11. Billy T, November 24, 2009:

    yeah i would feel bad that i had some much influence over someone’s life and didn’t have enough insight to see that. however, I would have also asked why didn’t they just come and talk with me?

12. Very confused, November 24, 2009:

    X, said it. Usually it is easier for us to blame someone else for our problems than to accept responsibility for ourselves.

13. Big Mama, November 24, 2009:

    your never the reason for someone committing suicide…a person commits suicide because they are mentally unbalanced and cant legitimately deal with issues in their life….

14. X, November 24, 2009:

    If I was in their life then yes! But otherwise no because they did it! (I dont want to sound cruel) but its happened to me before! my best friend commited suicide and no one ever found out why!

15. Dora the explorer, November 24, 2009:

    my belief is that person made the choice,not you.therefore you are not the reason.

16. i*love*e, November 24, 2009:

    Umm wow explain and send me a message this seems like u may need therapy if u feel guilty and depressed ect ect

17. THEbestE, November 24, 2009:

    more details..

18. phew!!, November 24, 2009:

    def. id feel horrible

19. -Laura-, November 24, 2009:

    im the reason y my mama wants to die

20. Lindsay T, November 24, 2009:

    i’d check my heart, my attitude and mind setting.

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