1. CandyCor, November 24, 2009:

   I am a grandmother, of 14 grandchildren, if I knew that my husband was mistreating one of them, I guess that I would do some harm to him, because I adore my grandchildren and I cannot tolerate anyone harming them in any way. Why didn’t you see the signs before this happened? I am not going to sound like an old record, because you must be hurting enough as it is, What is important right now is the welfare of your grandson,it must be hard not knowing what to do to make him realize that, he is not alone that he has you to console him and reassure him that he was not at fault for what happened. Give him unconditional love and always tell him that you love him and make him feel special, by all means find him some help so, he can talk to someone and tell them how he feels about what happened with him and his grandfather. Sometimes we, as grandmothers feel like the whole world is collapsing on top of us when, we are passing through a crisis, and we do not know where to turn, but we forget that the lord is the only one to whom we turn to, and although we feel like he does not hear us he does. My oldest Grandson, was murdered two yrs. ago at the age of 23, and since we have been a closed knit family I felt like dying when we found out, I even blamed God, because in my sorrow, I felt that he could have prevented it. I still cry for him. I asked God to help us avenge his death,but I guess that it is up to the almighty when he will do justice for him, not when we want him to do it. I am going to pray for you and your grandson, asking, to make him realize that there is nothing to gain by taking his own life.

2. a.vasque, November 24, 2009:

   candy corn you already are helping him just be there when he needs a hug be there when he needs to talk and be there when he is mad as hell you are his life support now for him he needs to have professorial help to over come this and he will need you there by his side
   good luck to you both

3. just_me_, November 24, 2009:

   Wow! That is alot for a child to deal with. He has been through alot & he had no one to talk to. His life was miserable & he wanted it all to end. So the only way he thought that it could end, was sadly suicide. He needs YOU to talk to. Tell him that you are here. Give him a shoulder to cry on. & most imporantly, tell him that you love him & that he is safe.
   Good Luck

4. Dani, November 24, 2009:

   call that suicide hotline place and they will give him help

5. xcsnowri, November 24, 2009:

   One way you can help is showing Him that love and allow Him to get more involve in family discussions and family gathering. Start doing some of things He likes doing instead of forcing Him to do things you like to do. Get his input and opinion on things. Always remember that kids has a voice too.

6. whinniep, November 25, 2009:

   I can not reccomend much, but I strongly say that you should file a divorce against this monster you call a husband. You seem like a very decent person and may not easily be able to file a divorce, but you must keep you husband away from your grandson.
   Just somfort your grandson and say that his grandpa will never be allowed near him again

7. tothebat, November 25, 2009:

   well for starters keep him away from the creep u call his grandpa. ur grandson needs to know that someone is there for him. listen to him and be there for him no matter what. also get him a good Doctor to talk with.

8. shar p, November 25, 2009:

   Be there for him…there is not much you can do but to let him know he is loved and that suicide is not the easy way out….just be there for him is all I can say..I know form experience it’s not easy not threw a friend trying but threw trying myself..take care

9. conundru, November 25, 2009:

   Keep him away from whoever was abusing him.
   Cook good food for him. Lots of extra TLC and attention. Rent some good movies. Take him to museums and parks and zoos. Just listen to him a lot and let him know you care and are there for him.

10. kurtbiew, November 25, 2009:

    whoa!!!!! im sorry man jus let ur grandson kno that ur husband is in jail and is gonna be there for a long time and that he doesnt hav to be scared….. idk wow

11. terroris, November 25, 2009:

    i would go to counseling with him. Talking about it lets all the stuff leave, rather than building up. but please if you were to talk to him about this, let there be a professional with you. No one knows how hard it is to talk about that. also let him know that commiting suicide is not the answer, if he wanted to end his life than there must have been horriable depression, so let him know your there for him and there to talk about anything. Honesty is always key. If he doesnt want to talk with you about it, take him to a counsler and let him talk to her.
    i hope everything goes well, i feel horriable to hear about this.that should have never happened.

12. ++Laura+, November 25, 2009:

    yeah let him live with u and move to a cool place and just treat him like a ordinary kid, and make sure he has friends

13. Ledzeppe, November 25, 2009:

    force him to get therapy.

14. karategi, November 25, 2009:

    Are you still married to this creep? Let your grandson know that you support him 110%. talk to him and let him know that you will listen to what he has to say no matter how painful it is. Hopefully he is in therapy and getting some outside help.

15. Emme, November 25, 2009:

    glad he is in jail,poor kid God how to answer this; I hope he helps me find the words.just let him know you love him so very much and it was not his fault,get him into counseling for sure. why oh why do people do this; should they even be called a person that is just evil.I still have hate for my grandfather ,he did the same to me. I’VE BEEN IN AN OUT FOR COUNSELING FOR YEARS, the flash backs never leave and gets worse as you get older.maybe if I;D OF TOLD when I WAS A KID I COULD OF GOT HELP SOONER.he told me don;t tell your Mamie it;; will kill her !guess I WAS AFRAID IT WOULD, she died at age 85 in august I NEVER TOLD her; just my doctor; and found out a few Mt’s. ago 3 of my cousins had been molested by him too .they were lots older than me, if they would of just told it could of saved me from being a victim too. I PRAY HE WILL BE OK just love him ,and hug him for me .May God give you strength this has to be so hard on you too,God bless you both.

16. deedee, November 25, 2009:

    WOW….that’s a hard memory to let go of for a young kid. But you need to tell him that it’s over now…you’ll be safe and away from him…tell him uh….there are people who love and care about you a lot and they’ll always have his back whenever he needs help. Just be there for him….and talk to him ever once in awhile and ask how’s school going and how’s life treatin ya and stuff like that. After you get to know more and more about him and his personal life…take him to a physicals or doctor…good luck

17. Nice_guy, November 25, 2009:

    You have done the best thing possible if your husband is in jail for the abuse. If he is not, charge him. Go to your grandson and tell him that you will not let your husband hurt him anymore. Keep that promise.
    Be there for him, it is going to be a very rough road. Take him to councelling and go with him sometimes.

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