Archive for December 3rd, 2009



??????????? Suicde is nothing but a path followed by people who are feeble hearted and have shown towel in front of adverse conditions. Legally speaking suicide is an offence. By God’s grace if someone escapes clutches of grave then obviously he would be punished, but is there any punishment which would regenerate the desire to live again. Answer is clear ?No?.

???????????? If we? know the answer then it is important to know the reasons. Lost in the eternal darkness caused by innumerous societal questions and sorrow? that infirm mind inaccesible to even a small ray of light and he has no option none other than ……

???????????? Humans who once found it vulnerable to see even an animal distressed is now himself being churned in the eternal truth of life. Man was known to live his life for others but today he doesn’t even think of himself before ending himself. Have really words like humanity, love, culture become a myth? Unfulfilled desires and grief? are the prime reasons behind suicide. But grief is the consequence of our mistakes only. Then the question is why to err? If we avoid the cause itself why to worry about consequences? That might seem easy but it is human to err; hence we must remember one golden saying: ?humans are grocers, holding a b who have been provided with joys and sorrows. It depends on his skills how he sets balance between them by his deeds.?

???????????? While doing this we must not forget that as happiness is momentary so is sorrow. Life is full of crest and troughs which we have to go patiently. We often forget this and hence fall in the viscous circle of mistakes, sorrows, suicides.

??????????? I know it needs lots of guts to end one’s own life and it is not a job of feeble hearted to kill oneself without sympathising. It must really need lots of courage to stick to his decision. A man attempting suicide is not at all wrong, what is wrong is his way of thinking, his views, his ways. This might be fine for adults, but what about students, or roadside Romeo’s? These people who don’t even know how to tie their shoe-laces should commit suicide just because of mere failure in studies or love? Who should be held responsible for this? Lack of attention by parents, westernisation of Indian culture, movies and shows and its influence on tender young minds, these all would anyday top the list. One more reason could be society. Most of the people commit suicide not because they can’t face failure but because they find it difficult to deal with society after it.

???????????? Just consider a case occured year ago: A mother of two tried to commit suicide along with her two innocent children. Reason for her suicide was her husband ‘s extra marital affair. She was worried how she would confront society? Or how it will affect her children’s future or how to give them the nectar of values? How to leave husband’s house and once again be a burden for parents and at the same time shield herself from taunts, evil thoughts of other people? These were some of the questions which were caused by society itself. So in such a situation ?It is better to burn out. Then by fade away?. This is what she must have thought and set herself on fire. The moral is simple? ?Society is alone responsible for suicides!!!!!!!?.

???????????? It seems to be perfect case of irony because society is not an alien concept nor are its members. It is formed by cumulative contribution of all its constituents like us. We all are the one’s who make society. Then the question arises is that is society made for winners? Don’t we have any place for those who are able to make it through.

???????????? ‘Live and let Live’

??????? If we accept these golden words then it would make life definitely a better asset. Society should take the responsibility of lending moral support to all of them.

?????????? ??Society however should not be considered as a sole reason. It also depends on our outlook.

It can be understood by this story:

?????????????? Once a man was trying to hang himself on a tree. But as luck would have it the branch couldn’t sustain its weight and breaks down. The man starts crying. Another man asks the reason for his crying. He replies ? I incurred havy losses in buissness, my family died in an accident and now when I am trying to embrace death even it is distancing itself from me. What a cruel fate I have born with? To this the man asks ?Is this the worst you have faced?? ?Yes indeed. Destiny can’t be more cruel to me?. Replied the man trying to commit suicide. To this the traveller said calmly ?Now that you have faced so much what will follow is surely going to be good because you have nothing to loose?.

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The American Muslim community is reeling from news of the horrific beheading of Aasiya Hassan, allegedly by her husband Muzzammil Hassan.? They were respected members of the community and co-founded BridgesTV, a television network ironically dedicated to fighting negative stereotypes of Muslims.? As one of the first Muslims to succeed as a writer in Hollywood, I have been interviewed several times on BridgesTV and was delighted by the professionalism and media savvy of its staff.? I had never met the Hassans, but I had been proud of their accomplishments. Full Story »



I have a friend I met a few months ago. He opened up and told me his younger brother committed suicide a long time ago. He didn’t know the reason. I can tell it is hard for him to talk about and I don’t want to say the wrong thing if the subject comes up again. I also want to understand better what he may be going through (guilt etc). Thanks



Many people head their articles or book chapters with a quote; this lends gravitas, authority and authenticity to what follows. On the whole I like a good quote, although seeing the same quotes and anecdotes repeatedly, (Edison and his light bulbs, Colonel Sanders and his chickens) starts to grate after a while.

With that in mind, here is a quote that changed my life, from “The Book of Five Rings” by Miyamoto Musashi (translated by Thomas Cleary). Have a read and I’ll explain why.

“FIVE KINDS OF GUARD”

“The five kinds of guard are the upper position, middle position, lower position, right-hand guard, and left-hand guard. Although the guard may be divided into five kinds, all of them are for the purpose of killing people. There are no other kinds of guard besides these five.

Whatever guard you adopt, do not think of it as being on guard; think of it as part of the act of killing”.

I found The Book of Five Rings for the handsome sum of fifty pence in Oxfam. At the time I was operations manager for a media firm. I headed 12 managers and 160 staff across three day and night shifts in a business that ran 24/7 and only closed on Christmas Day. Getting everyone moving in the same direction was often a challenge, as we were a feisty bunch, with sizable egos. There were many heated conversations and passionate arguments. I have to admit that sometimes, I would come out of a meeting and feel as though I had taken a right good kicking.?

When we are under attack, people will look for our soft and vulnerable points; they aim at our emotions and our pride. This can knock us off balance and cause us to feel hurt and angry. If our pride is hurt, we may counter attack irrationally and ineffectively and this will make us look even weaker.

Rather than have a weak counter attack it is better to guard and admit that you may not have all the answers, need more time, even acknowledge mistakes, or oversights and apologise. Do not show anger but strive for inward calm, put your ego on hold and demonstrate unwavering equanimity.

Have patience, have perspective, and have perseverance. Not all conflicts are won in a few easy moves. Do not think of it as being on guard; think of it as part of the act of killing. You will persevere. You will win.

The greatest battles are those we fight inside of ourselves, often we need to be on guard. In this case, do not think of it as being on guard; think of it as part of the act of living.

Phil Pearl is a clinical hypnotherapist based in Harley Street, London, W1. He specialises in mental toughness and resilience – helping people to improve their confidence, self-esteem and overcome anxiety and stress. In conjunction with hypnotherapy he uses elements of cognitive behaviour therapy (CBT) and rational emotive behaviour therapy (REBT). He provides training on mental toughness and resilience for companies and organisations. Phil Pearl 10 Harley Street London W1G 9PF Tel 0207 467 8548 email: phil@mental-toughness.co.uk Web: http://www.mental-toughness.co.uk



like theres this group of friends but one person got alienated for some “unexplainable reason”, he/she get ignored and treated differently by others. That person is broken hearted because he/she loved and cared for his/her friends. Then one day he/she decides they couldnt stand it anymore and committed suicide.
If you were one of the “friends” how would you feel if that really happened?


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